Outspoken, Childfree & Autistic.

Dealing with negative comments is no easy task. It makes my anxiety kick into high gear and makes me question how I feel about myself. I need to remind myself to breathe and realize that the comments don’t reflect how they feel about me but how they feel about themselves. The past few days i’ve had a few people utter the F-word about things I have posted or done.

Photo by Kayla Harris on Unsplash

I posted an unpopular opinion puffins meme from mindyourowneggs on instagram that read “I’M TIRED OF PARENTS COMPLAINING ABOUT HOW TOUGH IT IS TO RAISE CHILDREN” and at the bottom of the image it read “NO ONE FORCED YOU TO HAVE KIDS.”  It prompted a flurry of messages on instagram from an Autistic Mother with an Autistic Child who took it to heart.

As a societal-whole, we make choices and need to deal with the consequences of our actions.

It continued on twitter with more messages towards me, essentially discrediting me as a “small time activist” amongst other things. 

I have been incredibly vocal about my Childfree stance and I do frequently worry about the sad state of our planet. My opinion encompasses all those feelings and I don’t want people to think I am specifically targeting parents of Autistic Children. I posted that meme as a blanket statement. I can’t say that I have much in common with parents of Autistic Children, because I don’t. When I speak, I speak from my heart. Entirely based on my experiences. Clearly, this doesn’t go over well with everyone, but those who have chosen to support me are people I would like to thank for giving me strength to get by. If anyone wants to believe that seeking out allies on social media platforms, by sharing this story, is a negative or “schoolyard” tactic, so be it. Childfree Autistic Adults do exist. We may be going against the grain of what society wants or expects from us, but we are just as valid.

There’s many things about myself I wouldn’t want to duplicate and therefore being Childfree has always been the best choice. How would I benefit from hearing people complain about a choice I have consciously decided not to make? I can’t provide any insight other than saying “Well, you made this choice.”, I can’t. There’s honestly nothing else I can possibly say to satisfy a parent. I still care about the rights of Autistic People as a whole and with that being said, I do what I can with my Childfree stance intact. There are facebook groups for Childfree individuals. There are instagrams, twitter accounts, websites, even Childfree Cruises and the Not-Mom Summit. A community which thrives. I’m not going to stop doing what I am doing because one person thinks I need to be a certain way.


Travel with Me: Vernon, BC 

We concluded our trip in Vernon, BC. One of our favourite towns. The weather kept up with the sun shining non stop.

Our first stop was our accommodations, located in the country, we stayed in a tiny house on a farm. Surrounded by horses, nature and some more incredibly sweet animals.

After we got settled, we went to our very favourite restaurant ever: The Curry Pot. The owners are of nepalese descent. We both ordered dinner specials, I got the Paneer Lababdar and Justin got the Butter Chicken.

We went the next morning to the Vernon Farmers Market. There is a great variety of different things being offered, such as: crafts, food and even a prayer tent.

My favourite is the Crepe Bistro. I got a Nutella Crepe, made fresh right in front of you!

Our next stop was Eatology! Justin found it on Google based on their 4.6 rating. He ordered the Mexican Skillet, completely vegetarian. “oh man it was good!” is his very personable review. I ordered buttermilk pancakes. The coffee is from Oso Negro in Nelson. This restaurant seems like it belongs in Vancouver. It’s hip, the menu is vast and it’s hard to not find something to eat. The water is self-serve and also is really nice – no chlorinated taste (which I am so sensitive to).

We had a really incredible vacation and can’t wait to go on our next one. I hope you enjoyed all my instalments. Travel is fabulous for the soul and makes us feel connected with the world around us.

Travel with Me! Nelson, BC: Part 1

I hope you have had a chance to see my previous chapters of “Travel with Me” with my focus being Victoria, BC.

This time, in BEAUTIFUL Nelson, we were privileged enough to stay at the Prestige Lakefront Hotel which overlooks the pristine Kootenay Lake!

 

The hotel is filled to the brim with amenities! There’s a gym, pool, hot tub, cafe, hairdresser and a lakeside restaurant. There’s also a waterfront path that’s easily accessible and very scenic.

 

Our room was huge. There was even a television IN THE BATHROOM. I’ve never seen that before.

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Guest services left me this lovely note and gift bag. I truly felt spoiled and the customer service was top notch.

We loved sitting out on the deck and looking out at the great views.

 

 

I want to thank the kind folks at Prestige for giving me the opportunity to have a complimentary stay in exchange for my review.

For more information, please check out: http://www.prestigehotelsandresorts.com/locations/nelson-lakeside-resort/overview/

 

 

Travel with Me! Victoria BC: Part 1

Hotel Zed is Victoria’s answer to a time-warp hotel. Complete with retro shuttle vehicles, friendly staff, bright colours and amenities galore. It’s the perfect insta-worthy getaway.

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The lobby is bright and cheerful and is shared with “The Ruby” restaurant which is known for their big, tasty breakfasts. We will have to try it sometime!

Coffee and tea is complimentary with your stay and you can even rent a bike (amongst other forms of transport) for use!

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We stayed in two different rooms, the first one was an outfitted Airstream, aptly named the “Zedstream”:

More info here: https://www.hotelzed.com/zed-victoria/rooms/21/Zedstream/

The second one was the king for a night suite (for some reason my other pictures vanished!):

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Here’s a video of Justin Yo-Yoing, it also shows off the amazingly comfortable bed!

There’s more information and a better picture on their website: https://www.hotelzed.com/zed-victoria/rooms/17/King_for_a_Night/

We had such a fun stay and documented the entire thing on my instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/retr0philiac/

 

I wanted to thank the fine folks at Hotel Zed for providing us with complimentary night stays in exchange for sharing my experience. It was a super groovy time I won’t soon forget.

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