Passing Judgment

Throughout my life, people have passed judgment on me based on the way I look, act or quite frankly who I am.

I think the way I present myself has a lot to do with my sensory sensitivities. For instance: I don’t “dress my age” and I prefer wearing comfortable clothing such as shirts that are a men’s size small, jeans, and slip on shoes. I rarely wear makeup and I usually just brush my hair and head out the door. It’s already so mentally trying to go out in to the world that the energy I would use to make myself presentable gets used up so fast. By that time, i’m already beyond drained and I start feeling physically ill.

 

Sometimes I dress very casually and sometimes I look fancy.


My intellectual capacity is clearly questioned because some people, whether it’s conscious or not, believe that the way someone looks has to do with the way they think.

I was treated very poorly at a restaurant and I can’t say for certain that it had anything to do with the way I looked, but I wouldn’t be surprised. It seemed like I was stereotyped as dumb and trashy because of my use of coupons and was spoken down to – which i’m still feeling anxious and upset about.

The English idiom “don’t judge a book by its cover” is a metaphorical phrase which means “you shouldn’t prejudge the worth or value of something by its outward appearance alone”. For example “That man may look very small and insignificant, but don’t judge a book by its cover – he’s a very powerful man in his circle”. —Wikipedia

We all deserve a little kindness and compassion, no matter what we look like.

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Autistic Speaking Episode 4

I refuse to be silenced.

-Margaux

The power of misunderstandings.

Today I was told that I come across as “a bit entitled”.

I feel like that’s the farthest from the truth. I am an incredibly direct person who tends to include factual information and I ask a lot of questions. If a certain channel doesn’t yield any answers, I try another channel. Yes, I am an incredibly persistent person but that should not be confused with entitled.

I seek informative answers, I seek consistency. I seek an answer, whether that’s acceptance or rejection, I feel as though I’m worthy of either versus just being ‘ghosted’. Being completely ignored.

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My story and my passion is one that is mixed with drive, acceptance, awareness and equal opportunities. I have a mission to showcase products, attractions, experiences and opinions with my wide array of different visitors–both Neurodiverse and NT.

 

I wish there was a general understanding that I am not doing this blog to get free stuff. I am creating content because I want to show the world a very unique point of view. This is a niche. This is my passion and I love to create media rich content—it allows me to be creative which is a huge part of my identity.  I have been told by a very prominent local blogger that I should be charging for all the work I do. I have not made a cent.

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Please don’t pass judgement. Education is key and incorrect labels do not help anyone.

For more information, please visit:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/aspergers-diary/201503/being-misunderstood

Stand with us. #BoycottToSiri

The Autistic community and individuals alike have a hard enough time as it is. We struggle in areas, and we excel in other ways. One thing that is important is to have the unwavering support of everyone around us, including our parents.

It was brought to my attention on Twitter that a book existed: “To Siri with Love”, by an author named Judith Newman. In this book she chronicles her neurotypical views about being a Mother to her autistic son Gus.

Personally, I wouldn’t be at all comfortable with someone else telling my story. Regardless of what the relationship was. That’s just not okay with me.

A lot of things are terribly wrong with this book: The way she refers to an incredibly stellar autism advocate: Amythest Schaber  (“Manic Pixie Dream Girl”) is incredibly demeaning and is generally used to describe a character that only exists for the straight male protagonist in video games, etc.

There are also mentions of Eugenics where the author states she would like to get power of attorney, when her son is old enough, to have a vasectomy performed on him.

That’s honestly not all of it – but I urge you to visit twitter and search #BoycottToSiri

Educate and learn. Become an ally. Stand with US not against us.

It’s my story to tell and NO ONE ELSE.

 

 

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This post is reflective of my opinions and does not reflect any of the brands or companies I have reviewed/worked with.