I’m not an easy person to date.

I’m just going to preface this with a disclaimer: These views are my own and do not reflect the Autistic community as a whole. I am a singular person. I also want to make it very clear that I am not a professional and this post should not be viewed as professional advice.

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I was 23. I had just moved from a small town back to the city where I was born. I was staying on a friends couch. I was bright eyed, super ambitious and ready to make a name for myself with my art. I’ve always been really active online and I took a chance one day and met someone. That changed the course of my life in a drastic and dramatic way.

Eight years. That was the amount of time I spent with this person. You grow a lot in that span of time. I thought I knew what I wanted. Clearly, that wasn’t the case. I had absolutely no idea.

One of the biggest mistakes I made was putting a label on a relationship with someone I had just met. We started dating from the moment we met. We were not even apart from each other. I didn’t even have a chance to get to know him.

Like the title suggests, i’m not an easy person to date. I also didn’t get my Autism diagnosis until a month before I turned 29. This is relevant because some of my behaviour throughout the relationship–where I was made to feel like I was difficult or acting out, ended up being directly attributed to things like meltdowns, shutdowns and sensory overload.

Patience is a true virtue. However, there’s a fine line between dating someone and feeling like you have to babysit them. I wouldn’t want to put someone through that again.

That’s not to say there were situations I was put in that didn’t make me feel uncomfortable and any relationship is a 2-way street.

There were instances where I was left feeling wholly uncomfortable and in massive amounts of distress. I had to deal with things like anti-semitism, being in a car with my partner and not being told where we were going or what we were doing, having my messages online sifted through, being made to feel like the things that were important to me were irrelevant, having my birthday ignored, having to owe money for things like rides from point a to point b, bargaining, having my cultural background ignored– I even overheard a conversation about how I didn’t want children, the list honestly goes on.

No one should have to be subjected to those kind of things. Listening to your partners wants, needs and desires is imperative. Again, this goes both ways.

I am the kind of person who needs structure. I need full disclosure. I need plans. I need to know what’s going on. I should never have to play a guessing game with someone who responds with ‘maybe’ or ‘I don’t know’. I’m not sure how I was able to play along for any length of time. Exhausting, emotionally draining and frustrating are only some of the key words used to describe it.

Not to mention exasperating. I’m truly learning about myself, WHO I AM and what my goals are.

Should I have to continue to defend myself for simply being? Should I have to put myself in situations that I made very clear I do not want to be in? No. Never. There’s no excuse for this.

This year has been incredible in terms of the things I accomplished and believe it or not, i’m proud.

I just want to continue on and keep going. I am prideful and I am strong.

P.S: A video WILL happen on this subject but I have lost my voice.

OMIGOD You Guys, Align Entertainment Presents LEGALLY BLONDE is A HIT!

The story may be familiar as it is based on the 2001 film of the same name! Elle Woods is a sorority girl who decides to attend Harvard Law School to win back her ex boyfriend, Warner Huntington III. She meets Emmett, her Professors’ Teaching Assistant and they quickly become quite chummy. Defining herself as a perfectly capable – and intelligent woman, who just happens to like pink–she learns quickly and helps her new-found Esthetician, quirky Paulette, get her dog back. That small victory was just the beginning. Later in the play she exercises her direct nature and new found knowledge to win a murder case by proving Exercise Queen Brooke Windham innocent of all charges.  Along the way Elle’s three friends Margot, Serena and Pilar keep things interesting with their musical numbers and comical interjections.

Julia Ullrich dazzles as the bubbly Elle Woods (surprisingly enough I had seen her as Veronica in Fighting Chance Productions “Heathers: The Musical” where she was absolutely incredible), She powerfully commands the stage.

I have to say, the casting is spot on and all the characters perfectly play their roles. The music is catchy with the “OMIGOD” song carrying you throughout the play.

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Photo Courtesy of Align Entertainment

The choreography and sets were perfectly executed, creating an almost dreamlike ambiance. The orchestra gave me goosebumps, there’s nothing quite like experiencing live music! I was super impressed with the attention to detail which was incredibly pleasing both in a visual and auditory fashion. I have enjoyed Broadway shows and can tell you that the amount of talent on the stage is transcendent. It is the perfect escape!

This marvellous adaptation of the feature film runs from February 2 to the 17th with tickets starting at $27! $15 special pricing on February 12th for Family Day.

For more information, please check out AlignEntertainment.ca

I was lucky enough to be provided with 2 complimentary tickets courtesy of Align Entertainment for their production of Legally Blonde at the Michael J Fox Theatre in Burnaby, British Columbia.

 

My Experience at Famoso!

It’s not often that I find a restaurant that can truly cater to my specific dietary needs or naturally picky nature. I also get easily bothered by bright lighting, closed spaces, tables that feel like they are in the middle of the room and noisy play areas.

This was my third visit to Famoso Morgan Crossing, located in South Surrey, British Columbia Canada. It’s always been an absolute delight. The management and staff make it a point to provide outstanding customer service and delicious food, every single time.

 

 

The location has large windows and feels very open, the lighting is absolutely soft and almost relaxing. The booths are very comfortable.

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We started our meal with an oven roasted flatbread with tzatziki and hummus. It was packed with flavour and incredibly fresh.

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I ordered a Margherita Pizza but omitted a few ingredients and replaced it with roasted garlic! Garlic is definitely one of my favourite flavours. The Pizza was baked to perfection. My boyfriend, Justin ordered the Spicy Thai Pizza and was incredibly impressed with the taste and quality of toppings.

 

We ended our meal with a scoop of gelato each. So rich and creamy. I’ve had the Nutella Pizza before and I have to say that it’s also an excellent choice for dessert.

 

It’s a great place for a date, a family outing or a birthday party. I’ve been there for all 3 and I always leave with a smile on my face, a full belly and good memories. The prices are incredibly reasonable too.

Thank you Famoso for having us, we had such a great time!

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DISCLOSURE: Famoso graciously hosted us free of charge in exchange for my review.